Therapist Reacts to INSIDE OUT

03 Th06, 2020
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Licensed Therapist Jonathan Decker examines psychology, relationships, family dynamics and more in this deep dive into Pixar's masterpiece: Inside Out.
Jonathan shares his insights from a decade of professional marriage and family therapy to examine the themes and ideas presented in Inside Out, to see what the filmmakers got right, and horribly ruined (not much, really.) Alan says some things too. His insights are of middling quality.
Also, Alan cries.
Like, a lot.
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Written by: Megan Seawright, Jonathan Decker and Alan Seawright
Produced by: Jonathan Decker, Megan Seawright & Alan Seawright
Edited by: Alan Seawright
Director of Photography: Bradley Olsen

  • I love this video, SUBSCRIBED! :D

    DzzyDzzyGiờ trước
  • Oh wow that’s a great habit, meditating after screen time I find myself consuming a lot of depressing movies or documentaries and have a hard time from disassociating what I’ve watched and my actual reality. So yea ima try that out sounds like it could help me out :)

    DzzyDzzyGiờ trước
  • 😭😭😭 you guys are amazing... Thank you God Bless You All 🕊🙌🕊

    L. G.L. G.5 giờ trước
  • I've yet to meet someone with this thing they call, Toxic Positivity. But if someone was spewing these rather bland quips.. I'd just assume that these are the sorts of words that make them feel better. Doesn't feel toxic just a little simple. 🙄

    189018908 giờ trước
  • Why cant I hit the Like button 200 times? Fantastic incite of a movie and life in general, wonderful job!

    Richard NeeleyRichard Neeley10 giờ trước
  • I cried 4 times and it wasn't even the actual movie, itt was just a commentary of it. Damn Pixar

    Love PizzaLove Pizza14 giờ trước
  • "And my kids give me the opportunity instantly"

    Crystal EvansCrystal Evans18 giờ trước
  • Oh bloody hell!!!! Now I’m crying!

    Natalie PNatalie P19 giờ trước
  • Can you explain the part about abstract thought? What is it exactly?

    Ane KuzmanovskaAne Kuzmanovska22 giờ trước
  • not me watching for the reaction but crying on 16:00 onwards

    keanlockes on frackkeanlockes on frack23 giờ trước
  • I'm graduating from high school this year and the hardest thing I've faced these past few years is the realization that I need to let go and forget the past. I have some great memories that I hate to let go, but I know it's time. I relate so much with what you guys have talked about, in fact I'm crying just listening to you explain it. It is hard, but we can only get stronger.

    Aaron MarkowitzAaron MarkowitzNgày trước
  • There's a Greek phase 'gnothi seauton' which means 'know yourself' that I think reflects this quite well.

    Anonymous AnonAnonymous AnonNgày trước
  • if your wife makes fun of you for crying then she can't ever complain about toxic masculinity

    rezkallarezkallaNgày trước
  • when i feel happy instead of upset for once it feels great

    shaylene monkmanshaylene monkmanNgày trước
  • There's no other form of love that's as powerful as the one you experience through sadness. Every time I've had to express my sadness to my parents, the unconditional love coming from them has felt exactly like that scene when Riley lets everything go with her parents. I have no idea how they managed to capture that exact emotion, but BIG kudos to Pete Docter and Pixar for pulling through with my favourite movie!

    Clara SundqvistClara SundqvistNgày trước
  • like the video altho i do have to say its stopped allot.... and maybe the video can show more of the movie while they talk

    Deron ThorntonDeron ThorntonNgày trước
  • I was recently talking to one of my friends about how I consider sad and tough moments as positive and they were confused but I explained that these sad moments can be positive when they connect people together. They can start conversations that grow a bond between people so when he touched on that sadness and pain is the price of love it made so much sense to me because its those vulnerable moments that really bring people together. Its the difference between causal friends and best friends or or a casual relationship and a relationship thats progressing into something stronger. That statement truly described the importance of being vulnerable to others, showing your emotions and not just always pretending to be happy

    Sean McCaddenSean McCaddenNgày trước
  • Some call Bing Bong's "death" scene the moment where kids give up the idea of having imaginary friends. Well, I'M thirty-five and I STILL have mine; just not in a creepy/freaky way. Hear me out, I'm what you call "eccentric" and I later discovered that some of my favorite people in history had similar eccentricities as well. Guys like C.S. Lewis, Tolkien and even Gary Gygax all had their own imaginary exploits in life, which later helped fuel their creative ideas. As such, I use MY imaginary friends to help fuel my own creativity

    sadlobster1sadlobster1Ngày trước
  • Just out of curiosity, what's the initial difference between toxic positivity and regular positivity? I ask because I've seen plenty of positive characters in media who seemed relatively normal; Wander, Leni Loud, Spongebob (just to name a few)

    sadlobster1sadlobster1Ngày trước
  • Can you please be my therapist? lol. Also me and my sister ar now just screaming back at each other "JOY IS TOXICCCC SHE A PARASITEEE"

    Mariah MojicaMariah MojicaNgày trước
  • Thanks for making me ugly cry y'all! Great react video 💗

    Ashley ElrodAshley ElrodNgày trước
  • Respect👍💯

    GoldenBear23GoldenBear23Ngày trước
  • This is absolutely my favorite video in this series so far. This video completely tore me up. I think every time one of you guys start to tear up, it immediately happens to me! Haha

    Omar ZakiOmar ZakiNgày trước
  • Well. When I've been in the last time,my doc recommended this movie to me. At this point I was learning to feel and accept emotion's and feelings again. I faced really strong depression and felt nothing. For year's. And I wasn't even able to understand emotions and how they would feel. Some day my doc spoke about this movie. I wasn't able to feel emotions after watching it, but it helped me to understand what's going on. Like the part with the control panel! This movie is great in many ways. It's a funny child movie with a very important background. And I never expected a child movie explaining my life to me

    toteswurmeleintoteswurmelein2 ngày trước
  • I used to have so many happy memories of my family but I now see what my family really is and now all of the good time arent all blue but instead red

  • When he mentioned how all the memories of his mother are all 'blue' now, that's the thing that hit me the hardest. So simple, yet so moving.

    TheHorrorDevoteeTheHorrorDevotee2 ngày trước
  • I'm chocking on my tea people-! Stop making me CRYyYyYYyyyyYYYyy

    RB lunaticRB lunatic2 ngày trước
  • I love to watch two grown-up men crying to this..The profound discussions that Pixar's movies promote between adults make me think they are the right content to show to kids. Not just entertainment but growth.

    mathew9710mathew97102 ngày trước
    • Bingpot.

      Cinema TherapyCinema Therapy2 ngày trước
  • Memories, core or otherwise, are important to me because my first 15-3/4 years were sort of wiped from existence, and most of my memories since then are suspect.

    Wendy ChavezWendy Chavez2 ngày trước
  • what a perfect duo for this "react-to". This is beautiful! I love how Mr. Decker explained the emotions and the need for them - and the need to acknowledge them. I think we all tend to forget that from time to time...

    BintehBinteh2 ngày trước
  • why evenjust watching a reaction makes me cry

    Reyna ArponReyna Arpon2 ngày trước
  • im not crying .... you are cryingg

    Antonioo ToniAntonioo Toni2 ngày trước
  • 11:41 I have been watching a lot of GTA content lately and I guess this is why the algorithm recommended your video to me.

    European FoxEuropean Fox2 ngày trước
  • the subconscious thing was so deep man, I once had a nightmare that my mom committed suicide

    sky b0ttle - Brawl Starssky b0ttle - Brawl Stars2 ngày trước
  • I think this is the best thing that happened in the pandemic ever🥺🥺🥺

    F XF X2 ngày trước
  • 2 men not afraid to be vulnerable while talking about struggles in life. This needs to "normalized". Thank you Cinema Therapy for your content, it means sooo much and ya'll definitely are helping a lot of people out here. Keep doing your thing!

    Justine CastilloJustine Castillo3 ngày trước
  • great video! Definitely cried

    Daniel AlvarezDaniel Alvarez3 ngày trước
  • Anne with an e please

    Alaa AliAlaa Ali3 ngày trước
  • I was wondering how a therapist and a filmmaker could be friends but after watching a few videos I understand and I love it!❤❤

    Kim SeokjinKim Seokjin3 ngày trước
  • minute 16 - big guys are gonna cry watching animation movie, awwwwwwww

    Laura BerzinaLaura Berzina3 ngày trước
  • I was so mad at this film when I saw it. I had a rough childhood and seeing the idealized version of everything made me angry. Of course Pixar couldn’t portray a movie with all the things I was dealing with 😅, but I was mad.

    Janelle SanchezJanelle Sanchez4 ngày trước
  • You guys didn't mention the fact that because Ryley's feelings of moving and what her mom asked her to do she had caused her to deconstructed joy and sadness and Bing bong who represented her child hood

    Lea O'BrienLea O'Brien4 ngày trước
  • This video was helpful than a year of therapy

    Night BabyNight Baby4 ngày trước
  • wow! Beautiful react video in solo many levels! Thanks and cheers from Brazil 😊💖🙏

    LuaLua4 ngày trước
  • Watching this with you guys is making me realize that every scene in this movie is so important. It also makes me realize how much I want therapy and how much I want to be a therapist.

    CoraKolourACCoraKolourAC4 ngày trước
  • 5:33 WOW. If this doesn't help sum up this movie, I don't know what does. Sadness has something she likes that isn't all sunshine and rainbows, but Joy shuts her down because of that. I just now realized how this plays into the central theme of the movie lmaoo

    CoraKolourACCoraKolourAC4 ngày trước
  • 3:59 This. This is exactly what I went into Inside Out thinking, that the ultimate goal was happiness. But it's not, the goal is growing as a person and learning to understand and learn from mistakes.

    CoraKolourACCoraKolourAC4 ngày trước
  • not me ugly crying... again.

    Jasmine GriffinJasmine Griffin4 ngày trước
  • I can't watch this movie without crying, especially after seeing Riley's special memories become blue. It hits me hard because it reminds me so much of me because, like her, I moved somewhere else where I knew nobody. (Somewhere where I had to learn a new language). It was and still is a new experience because everything is so different from where I used to live. It was also my parent's decision to move and, although I don't blame them, I know it costed me so much to accept the fact that I had to leave my friends and everything I knew behind. As a teen it was not easy for me at any level. But I too eventually learned to let go of the past and instead try for my family for they have always been my biggest support. So is because of that reason that I always end up crying with this movie because it takes me back to those days and the emotions I felt ...

    D'GanteD'Gante5 ngày trước
  • I feel like I've found the most nerd but interesting channel on youtube! This is like the best of both worlds a whole new way of analyzing and understanding movies from a more psychological pov but still with that cinematographic input I'm sold

    Lizeth FernándezLizeth Fernández5 ngày trước
  • Awesome video!!!! Love this so much!!!!

    carolyard123carolyard1235 ngày trước
  • I cried too. *hugs everyone*

    leviathanialeviathania5 ngày trước
  • I'm still trying to tease out what the writers, animators, and director at Pixar were trying to say about the parents through the representations of their internal minds. Anger seems to be the group leader for the father, and his control room is themed around that and the military, but as a person he doesn't seem particularly angry (except for his one blow up). Riley's mother, on the other hand, seems to have sadness as the group leader and thematic core for her control room, which always seemed to us like it represented her more empathic personality traits. But what does anger say about the father? That he is primarily motivated by a sense of righteousness? The desire to make order of the world around him? I'm still working on that.

    ChasmodiusChasmodius5 ngày trước
  • thank you for your tears, now I feel ok with my tears too x xx x

    Jennifer GrisJennifer Gris5 ngày trước
  • I watched this with my. students in class and i was bawling in the back of the class hahahahaaha this movie is fantastic and a great way to teach young kids about emotions in a fun and informative way! This really helped me to understand why I feel sad about old memories because as you said, they are gone now. I also do have bittersweet memories too. Bing Bong didn't deserve that tho. I get that he had to go to have Joy move on and grow up but dang I mean to think that some of my memories just faded away like that.... dang that messed me up

    HeyItsMeeTeeHeyItsMeeTee5 ngày trước
  • Y’all made me cry in this one omg

    JAC671JAC6715 ngày trước
  • I'm not crying, you're crying!

    HighLanderPonyHighLanderPony5 ngày trước
  • Wait is this just the representation of internalised puberty and anxiety in a movie?

    Lumia •Lumia •6 ngày trước
  • That talk about your wife dreaming that you're a terrible person hits close to me. I often have dreams of my parents being neglectful, abusive and cruel to me, but in real life they're nothing but sweet and doting to me. I guess I also have that fear of "this is too good to be true" :(

    Southwest SnailSouthwest Snail6 ngày trước
  • Thanks! I am going through some crap and needed this!

    Christy BradfieldChristy Bradfield6 ngày trước
  • This made me cry more than the actual movie lmao

    K8K86 ngày trước
  • "Every happy memory I have of her is colored in blue". Thank you. I needed to hear that. I needed to hear that I am not alone in that.

    Tashala AshterianTashala Ashterian6 ngày trước
  • Huh... wonder what that stuff about the subconscious says about my dreams. I have a lot of impossible task dreams, those dreams where you’re doing something in a panic, in an emergency situation, and it’s like moving through molasses or the task multiplied out of control and... oh that’s just... my normal state... with ADHD... Yeah, answered that question for myself. Oh... wow I needed that ending. Those blue-yellow memories are important...

    TylerTyler6 ngày trước
  • I came across this video when I felt incredibly sad that day. but what made me feel happy and sad once I watched this, was when you spoke about the family coming together, and Riley finally mourning her childhood and "I need my family because I'm hurting". I've watched Inside out multiple times in the past, yet I hadn't realised that I myself have had one of those moments, where I hugged my mum for the first time in many years and we saw each other in our most vulnerable states, I was afraid of showing and telling her how much I was hurting because I wanted to be strong for her in a very difficult time in our lives. I relaxed into that sadness and felt happiness the exact same way Riley had, for different reasons, but the same result occurred. We were mourning our lost time together for the first time. I want to thank you both for helping me through that sad day and making me smile and reflect through the Inside Out lens.

    Alexandra Chatwin-DalgleishAlexandra Chatwin-Dalgleish6 ngày trước
    • So glad you were able to have that experience of opening up with your mum, and hope it was healing for you both. ❤️

      Cinema TherapyCinema Therapy6 ngày trước
  • I think the devolution of pixar into navel gazing self obsession is a sign of the times and where we are headed. A kids arena is not the place to postulate on themes and issues that a lot of adults still don't grasp fully. and before you all say well then that's all the more reason to- ill stop you there. Kids should be allowed just grow up without them becoming vessels for our own neurosis. Pixar is a dangerous place for kids now. Its no longer just woodie trying to find his owner.

    FF7_FANFF7_FAN6 ngày trước
  • I believe Brene Brown said if you try to cut off one emotion you will cut off all of them. The only way to fully and in a healthy way experience life is to not suppress any emotions, feel them all. This is a wonderful film for adults as well as kids and after losing my mother last year, I am also experiencing bittersweet, the mix of joy and sadness.

    Sandra HertelSandra Hertel6 ngày trước
  • 😭😭😭😭😭

    Ай ЖанАй Жан6 ngày trước
  • Damn. I really appriciate your vulnerability and you guys doing this. Beautiful. Big thanks and much warmth from sweden.

    Aleksandar PetrovicAleksandar Petrovic6 ngày trước
  • Please do a breakdown of "The Guilty (2018), it's literally ALL psychology and I think it would break Alan emotionally.

    pokingHalipokingHali6 ngày trước
  • When I watched Inside Out when I was young and unexperienced, I was never emotional. Now as a teen who has gone through many things emotion related, even just watching this reaction video made me sob, because I understand what Riley has been through.

    Toph BeifongToph Beifong7 ngày trước
  • I think that a lot of people think of depression as sadness but in reality it's like not feeling anything. Depression makes it hard to smile but it also makes it hard to cry. I think being not being sad is what makes depression so dangerous.

    Sofeia HerrSofeia Herr7 ngày trước
  • 0:00 is inception a joke to you??

    Unripe TomatoUnripe Tomato7 ngày trước
  • I really enjoyed this video and I actually learned a lot about emotions.. I’m 21 years old so any age works

    Bradley HendersonBradley Henderson7 ngày trước
  • That dream, you described your wife has, might have been the other types of men out there. There are men, being abusive, narcissistic and other negative traits, she might have seen it in the past. She is aware that you're a man, and these traits could in theory also be in you. But, like Serius Black says, in The order of the phoenix; "the world isn't split, in good people and death eaters, we're all both dark and light inside ourselves. What matters, is the side we choose to act on.." That, is strong and framing, very well put and expressed. We meet a situation all the time. Something new. And different people, can react to that situation, being the exact same one, differently. Because they are different.

    Marianne JensenMarianne Jensen7 ngày trước
  • how the fk do you make sense of this

    PerseverencePerseverence7 ngày trước
  • I come back to this vid every time I need a good cry lmao

    chloechloe7 ngày trước
  • anyone else ✨dislike✨ joy? or just me

    dnf shipperdnf shipper7 ngày trước
  • I feel like there is also the other way around whereas a sad memory can become a happy memory. In the case of me and my girlfriend of some years now we had times which were filled with a lot of sadness due to "baggage" we both brought with us but if I think back on these times now I don't feel like they are sad really. While I know I was sad and things were not easy, the fact that we worked on it and got better about those things makes it something I don't feel sad about.

    Storm SCIIStorm SCII7 ngày trước
  • Wait, so, my dreaming of hunting a white horse on an indoor beach, and that horse turning into a polar bear as one of the people in my group, after we all decide not to shoot, suggests it might be dangerous, is something that i'm not facing? Man, i must have fascinating problems.

    HolyPastramiHolyPastrami7 ngày trước
  • i've never been on this channel in my life but you got me at the beginning guys xD

    sososophiasososophia7 ngày trước
  • watching other men cry makes me feel just a little bit like, idk normal I guess...

    Frankie SanchezFrankie Sanchez7 ngày trước
  • Damn, that was an intense workout. My eyes sweating.

    Amit KumarAmit Kumar7 ngày trước
  • 12:40 *HOLY SHIT* thats prolly why i rarely ever get nightmares anymore

    dumb loserdumb loser8 ngày trước
    • I have nightmares every night, lucky you

      CrickethCricketh7 ngày trước
  • ive been holding back watching this bc i knew i would cry and here i am and plot twist im crying

    Aesthetic IdiotAesthetic Idiot8 ngày trước
  • Well, now I'm crying.

    EvestEvest8 ngày trước
  • After the therapist said that all his memories of his mom is blue because she’s dead, I started ugly crying because none of my family loves me. Their “love” is based on if I deserve it. Their love is conditional. I have a boyfriend and friends who love me, but there’s no guarantee he’s gonna stay. My friends are there, but is their love enough? Because isn’t their love also conditional in a way?

    QueenOfLaughterQueenOfLaughter8 ngày trước
  • Wow... I am a father of 3 amazing girls. This one made me tear up. One of my girls(14 years old) I have shared 50/50 custody with my Ex. Well about 8 months ago her and I got into a stupid argument and I told her to spend a couple of weeks at her mom's. I wanted her to start showing more respect towards me. That didn't work. She and I had many talks about what happened. Said our sorrys and regrets about the argument. But she doesn't want to come home at all. We have a busy home here with 2 other daughters and love doing things together. Her mother lives alone and doesn't do much outside of work. Leaves her alone and doesn't ask her to do anything. I asked my Ex to help me get our daughter back to 50/50 time spent and my Ex told me at 14 our daughter can figure it out on her own. I have pleaded with my daughter to come home more times than I can count but she told me she loves the solitude. She loves not having to be present to anyone. She just wants to go to her own space where she can only worry about herself. Thats what she gets at her mother's and she can't get that in my home. I know it's not a bad thing to want that but it's so foreign to me. I don't think she will ever come home. There is a lot of Sad balls in my court. Sorry for the rambling but this video pulled it out of me.

    Ryan ARyan A8 ngày trước
  • The relationship of these two men is the pinnacle of a bromance

    Richard WhiteRichard White8 ngày trước
  • This kind of reactions is what I wanted it!

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  • the bing bong clip resurfaced truama i thought i dealt with lol

    BrandoBrando9 ngày trước
  • I think the video was interesting, but I have to stop it one third through, because of the annoying "connect/disconnect" of the mic. That noise, was too much for me to bear.

    TVfenTVfen9 ngày trước
  • The whole can’t have one without the other I think that’s why the character design for Joy has blue in it (a.k.a sadness) 🤯

    PlugLifePlugLife9 ngày trước
  • Yeah.. I have this one friend who is always trying to see the best in everything and be positive. And it seemed to me like a good way to deal with life. Because everything she does seemed to be great and I was idealising her. But that made me kinda angry and I didn't know why. Then I was talking to my therapist about how I think I'm a failure because I don't appreciate the good in everything. And he told me that it's okay when I feel sad or angry or whatever. And that constant happiness didn't give you the chance to deal with your real feelings and thoughts. And that's really dangerous. So it's okay to not be okay and now I'm accepting every feeling I have because it has its reasons. And I never felt more in balance with myself than ever :)

    BlueMoonlight777BlueMoonlight7779 ngày trước
  • Lol after playing minecraft a lot I think everything is a gast.

    Erin WalkerErin Walker9 ngày trước
  • oh toxic positivity, yeeeeah...

    B molitorB molitor9 ngày trước
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    Mercedes WillMercedes Will9 ngày trước
  • “We convey truth through fiction.” - Neil Gaiman. Hopefully I spelled his name right...

    Dig-Daeg StudiosDig-Daeg Studios9 ngày trước
    • you spelled it right

      Pelin YurulPelin Yurul14 giờ trước
  • I am in love with this content, as a movie buff and someone who deals with clinical diagnosed mental health issues seeing the two merge together to help tackle moments and aspects of films that I enjoy is astounding and makes me so happy, If you ever feel up to I’d id love to see your thoughts and discussion over good will hunting, maybe even just specifically the therapy scenes in it.

    Keith StockerKeith Stocker9 ngày trước
  • You guys need to do "Up". Please

    SS9 ngày trước
  • The abstract thought sequence looks like it must've been fun to animate

    Kevin PalmerKevin Palmer9 ngày trước